Our Words Carry More Weight Than We Realize

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This post combines two of our favourite things here at Elitosphere: beautiful men and positivity, and I absolutely love it. Terry Crews graces Men’s Fitness November issue for obvious reasons… the man is built like Zeus on steroids. Even so, he has consistently shown throughout his career that he is an amazingly lovable goofball who hardly ever takes himself too seriously, and I’ve always loved that about him. For his Men’s Fitness piece, Terry Crews is interviewed by his Brooklyn Nine Nine co-star, Andy Samberg. I don’t know if it’s because the interview was done by a great comedian like Samberg, if it’s because it was done by someone who actually knows Terry Crews personally, or if it’s because it was done by someone who had no need to write with journalistic flair, but this piece is one of the best (if not the best) that I’ve read from this publication.

This post, however, isn’t so much about the entire interview. I’d like to focus more on one specific aspect of it. The very first question which was put to Terry was what did he consider to be the characteristics of a good man, and his response was:

“Well, there was a guy named Lee Williams who was my assistant football coach in the seventh grade, and he basically told me I could do anything. No one had ever told me that. Ever. Even the head coach was, like, “Terry Crews, you ain’t gonna do nothing.” That was his way of motivating us: negative energy. Ninety percent of the guys went on to do nothing. He really didn’t realize that people were listening.

Well, Coach Lee was like, “Terry, you can do it. There’s no way you should not be playing in college on a Division I scholarship. Period.” That was such a shock to me. I took that one conversation all the way up to the NFL.”

Honestly, how amazing is that? Our culture now seems to be rapidly evolving into one where people go out of their way to say the meanest things possible to others, usually hidden behind internet anonymity. Very many people think that it’s just “trolls” doing it because they’re bored, and maybe sometimes it is. I, however, think that more often than naught, it’s a bit deeper than that. I think it has to do with the fact that some people are just looking for attention… in the most pitiful sense. Witty, sarcastic, clever and funny comments often get lots of upvotes and favourable comments under. I think that very many people crave this sort of validation, as silly as it may seem to some of us. Unfortunately, they aren’t able to do witty or clever, so they think that being mean or snarky is the same thing, so they criticize and insult in the hopes that others will agree and flock to their comments with praise.

Whether this is the case, or whether they’re trolling, or sincerely being mean, it’s a whole lot of negativity and hatred that just isn’t necessary. We spend less than half a minute typing up the most disgusting comment that we can think of, and move on to the rest of our day. But have we ever stopped to consider how long this one comment may affect the person that it is directed to if they were to read it?

And if it does hurt this person so deeply, would the comment have been worth it? Would it make us feel better about ourselves knowing that our words were able to put someone down so horribly? This shouldn’t even be limited to the internet. Even in person, we sometimes treat others so badly for the mere reason that we can.

Words, however, are powerful, and they have powerful consequences and effects. Shouldn’t we try to use them to uplift and motivate others as much as possible? It doesn’t pay to be negative… it never has, and it never will. It takes so little effort on our part to be kind to others, but as Terry Crews shows, it just may be a huge deal to them.

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4 thoughts on “Our Words Carry More Weight Than We Realize”


    So with you. People just say whatever they want and go on with their day, never EVER thinking about how long that comment will stay with someone else. Meanwhile, whatever they just said might hang on that other person’s head for days, weeks, years, or even the rest of their life. How sad is that?

    Not to mention, lazy. Because let’s face it, it’s much harder to be funny and positive. Especially when it means continually coming up with more things to say, day after day after day.

    On a tangent to that, I’m glad to see now that a lot of news websites and the like are disabling comment sections. Nip the problem right at the source!!

    Except, don’t do that here. Because I might cry.

    BTW, did I mention how much I like reading your blog – even on the posts I don’t comment?! 🙂

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    1. No, my darling! My comments section is here to stay!

      What I can’t really understand is that with all this news and publicity of people (kids and adults) taking their own lives because of being hurt by others, why so many people are still finding it difficult to just be kind. Or, at the very least, to not be negative, because it seems that kindness is one of the most difficult actions to impart.

      PS, You’re by far one of the most loyal visitors to the blog, so I’ve kind of assumed by now. In turn, I’d like you to know how much I enjoy having you here. Sincerely, and from the bottom of my heart.


  2. I love everything about this. EVERYTHING. We all have comments that stick with us, both positive and negative, and if any of the absolute complete and utter nonsense I ever say gets to be one of these winning quotes that makes an impact…I want it to be the right impact, and not the shitty one.

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